Anal sex…there it has been said. Does that take the taboo away for you? The truth is the topic comes up for every couple, be they gay, straight, or lesbian. If anyone’s sexual orientation has been missed, apologies, but anal sex has probably come up for you too. First time anal sex is usually uncomfortable, painful to some degree, and stressful. Fortunately, all of those factors can be lessened or eliminated. Here are a few tips.
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How to go about having anal sex
1. Talk To Each Other
Long term relationships involve a lot of talking. You have probably covered every possible topic in great depth, so why wouldn’t you talk about your sexual likes, wants, fantasies, prohibitions, and fears. Many of us grew up with stigmas surrounding our butts. Gay is wrong, you’re twisted if you let someone put something in your butt, etc. All of those opinions came from people whose thought patterns were outdated and were only speaking from their own fears.
Anyway, your partner may have some of the same fears about anal sex as you do. In addition to personal fears, first time anal sex has the fear of the unknown. Talking to each other about it will help to develop an intimate rapport that will improve every aspect of your life together.
2. Go Slow
Ladies and gentlemen, first time anal sex is not a sprint, it is a marathon. You need to start at a slow pace from the beginning. The faster you push those muscles apart, the more painful it will be for your partner. It is often best to start by performing oral sex, then with a small amount of lube, insert a finger into the anus. Some gentle massage, a bit of slow in and out for a few minutes. When that becomes comfortable, try a second finger. A few minutes after that it may be time to move to either a small diameter toy or your penis.
Whichever you choose for your next step, you will need lots of lube. Lube the anus, and every inch of the toy or penis. The key after that is to continue with the marathon principle in mind. Even after a few fingers and the tip have been inserted, no one is ready for you to go balls deep in a matter of seconds. If you do, you are just defeating your own goal of repeated anal sex.
Best Lube For First Time Anal Sex
There are some people who think water-based lubes are best for anal sex. We do not. They dry out quickly, forcing you to start the whole process again after you reapply. The best lube for first timers is Anal-Eze, mainly because it includes a small amount of a mild anesthetic. The amount of anesthetic is enough to allow more comfortable penetration, but not eliminate the pleasure. After a encounters, you will not need the numbing agent, so you can move to Astroglide or Gun Oil.
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